Upset that my boyfriend is taking Viagra

Dear Bella: I recently discovered that my boyfriend is using Viagra. He is in his late 20s. I feel betrayed because I thought he was naturally a good lover. Should I break up with him?

Pissed

Dear Pissed: I can understand your frustration but please understand that men have a very huge but fragile ego. He may have an erectile dysfunction (ED) problem and was not comfortable in telling you. Do not be angry with him. Speak with him about it; be nice and tell him you understand and it will not change anything.

However, do tell him how you feel about him not being honest and tell him to be more open with you.

You see a lot of young men in our community suffer from erectile dysfunction which is not necessarily the same thing as impotence. Most times it is a psychologically problem. On the other hand it can be due to poor health, sleep, nutrition and circulation problems.

The problem is most women do not understand what causes erectile dysfunction and when they encounter a male with the problem they react angry and frustrated and in the process dampen or kill the self-esteem of the male, which is wrong. No man wants to have ED but it does affect them sometime or the other.

Women are also known to have sexual dysfunctions, and most times men are very understanding with them, so why not show the men some courtesy?

The problem becomes complex when the man refuses to get help and cast blame on his female counterpart. But if he is open with you, be nice to him. If he hides it, it means he has bad experiences in the past with uncompassionate and silly females.

So miss, if he is a loving young man, who gives you great satisfaction, don’t throw him away. You might end up getting worse. It’s just a stage in every man’s life, but it is just that his came a bit earlier. And matter of fact it may be curable but he doesn’t know.

One thing you need to find out from him: is the Viagra prescribed by a doctor? That’s very important.

Upset that my boyfriend is taking Viagra

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